December 22, 2013
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Age is only a number…?
This past Monday, I went to a dinner party with a friend. Her birthday was coming up soon, and the host of the party was also celebrating his birthday. He cooked some awesome food (barbecue pork, brussel sprouts with some peppers and squash, awesome potato salad, etc. I only kinda knew him and my friend there; everyone else was the host’s friends.
I kinda sat away by the dinner table checking through my phone when my friend asked me a random question: “Hey Ben. You can block people on OKCupid, right?” She was chatting with another one of her friends. I said, “Yes, you can.” and joined in the conversation. It turns out they were exchanging stories about their experience on OKCupid. The other friend was a girl (who I believe used to be a customer that visited the friend’s restaurant a lot). I heard her mention that she like video games, and of course, that struck up my interest and curiosity. I began to talk to her and ask her what kind of video games she liked. For the rest of the night, we had a good full-conversation. We shared a lot of common interests: video games, musical talent, zombies, the usual. It was a fun conversation and she was a really awesome person.
Since she mentioned OKCupid, I figured that she might be single. So, I talked to a mutual friend who is closer to the other friend about it. That was on Thursday night. This morning, I received a text from said mutual friend (since I think she’s trying to figure out more information about this person, and if maybe she and other friend could play matchmaker). The text read, “She’s 8 years older than you O_O” I was a little surprised myself because while I had an idea that she might have been older than me, I would have guessed more like 2 or 3 years older, not eight. Some very impressive Asian genes she has (oh, yes. She’s Asian). It caught me off guard for a minute, but… it’s not that farfetched nowadays for men to date older women, right? I mean, there are plenty of couples where the girl is way younger than the guy. And I’m sure there are relationships where the woman is older than the man. I’m just not sure if 8 is a common number, though. And even then, if she is interested in dating younger men.
What do you think about couples where the age gap is kinda significant?
Comments (11)
First of all let me congratulate you on making a new friend and potential future date. As for relationships with an age gap, it depends on the individuals involved, their health, maturity level and common interests. I have dated older men, as is common, but also younger ones, and yes, by several years. It can be enjoyable for both of you if you let it and don’t get hung up on the numbers, and if you both are able to tollerate potential teasing from friends or others if the gap looks obvious (but you couldn’t tell, so others maybe won’t). Fingers crossed for you. BTW as one nerd to another, I’m smiling about the topics you covered; no not the OKCupid; I’ve never tried that, but I mean the zombies and video games etc.
Hahah, thanks. The friend is trying to plan a dinner or something for all of us to get together again. I think she might know something is up. Hahah. As for a potential date, I’m not sure how this person feels about that, so I don’t want to get my hopes high again to get shot down. And yeah, I’m not letting it get to me as much as people think it should. And well, video games and zombies will always get my attention. Hahah.
Yay!
Glad you found a date. I knew a couple who had 6 years differences. The girl was older than the guy. If the relationship works, out go for it.
Hahah, thanks Maggie dear. Though it’s not an official date. We’ll just have to wait and see…
I don’t think age makes a difference if you have a lot in common. Having similar senses of humor is important, imho!
Well, you know my sense of humor (hopefully). She probably likes my humor, but she hasn’t really seen the full spectrum of it yet.
If she can chat about zombies, then age is irrelevant.
Seriously – if both of you share a lot of common interests, it may overcome whatever age differences there is. I think the only time it may come into play is when one feels the biological clock ticking away.
I would like her on my zombie survival team. Hahah. We’ll just have to see how it goes… or not.
Ben! First time signing in on here in months. Interesting situation. I do think age is only a number. 27 (I think) and 35 doesn’t seem bad. Big difference if it were 19 and 27. Like, different stages in life; One who already went through what the other is (school, moving out, whatever) so you both are okay, plus, she rocks with video games. I think 10 year gap is considered to be a cougar. She’s good! Haha, Asian women are great.
Ben, i’m so glad you touch down on this, my friend’s marrying her bf in April who’s 44 i think or 43… and she’s only in her 20′s and they’ve been together for two yrs now… And oooh video games and zombies, she sounds like quite a catch ben, don’t let her get away!!!
Haha, you’re welcome, Melly sweetums. And well, depends if the mutual friends will be able to pull fates together again. But, we’ll see…