May 21, 2013
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About Tonight
After work, I made my trek up to the upper west side of Manhattan to meet her. Trains were wonky as usual, so it took a bit to get there. But I made it there first and she arrived about 5 minutes later. I usually like to hug people (and judging from last time, I shouldn’t ask if people like hugs). We shook hands first, but she said that we can hug too. We went to a bakery that uses bacon (since she loves bacon). We chatted, ate some delicious treats, shared some laughs and had some good common things to connect on. We also took the train back down together since she had to meet a friend.
I had fun and it was great to meet her in person…. but I feel like I underwhelmed. At times at the bakery, there were some short awkward silences. I tried to find common topics to find out about her, like high school sports, where her family was from, etc. We got a little more comfortable talking to each other towards the end, but the night ended with no hug when she had to get off at her stop. It was more like she needed to catch the train, but she did say it was nice meeting me. Honestly, at times, it felt like shoddy phone service: good connection at times, and then other times, none.However, I did still enjoy myself and talking to her. She was cute. I just felt like, again, that “spark” wasn’t there (at least from her point of view). I would be interested in meeting up again…. but, to avoid a major drop in mood, I’m not keeping my hopes up. Who knows? Maybe I’ll be pleasantly surprised if she does want to meet up again. But again, I don’t want to build myself up just to fall harder from a higher place.I hope you guys had a good night.
Comments (23)
I am glad you had a good time. Hopefully she wants to do it again
@Foodhog - Thank you, dear. And we’ll see, I guess. Dating is difficult. :
Yayyyy this sounds promising, when are you seeing her again?
Did you feel a massive spark with her?It’s easy to just like someone and get along with them but you gotta actually think about it. I find myself wanting to feel that with someone so much that I tell myself maybe next time, maybe this, maybe that, because the idea of giving up the possibility is hard.
But anyway, you had a pleasant time and that’s better than it being a disaster lol
@mellywelly15 - We’ll see, sweetums. Hahah.
@isitreal_no - It wasn’t a massive spark, but I am still interested. I don’t really want to just give up because sometimes, it may take some connections longer to get going, ya know? I asked her that if she would like, we should hang out again soon. She hasn’t responded to it yet, so we’ll see.
Well – you had fun and you seem pretty comfortable new people. Maybe she’s a bit cautious. I hope you hear from her again.
@ElusiveWords - Maybe. It is the city, and well, some people in the city can be sketchy. Hopefully, I’m not.
@laytexduckie - Yeah that’s true, lots of people that are in love say that they didn’t feel that strongly at the beginning. I hope you hear from her again
You guys went to a bakery and ate delicious treats…. I don’t see why she wouldn’t want to see you again!
Hehe, I love the place you guys chose to go. I hope you get another date 
Ben, this sounds wonderful! So happy that you two got to meet. Sounds like it went well. The bakery sounds . . . SWEEEEEETT. hehehe
I really hope she is open to seeing you again and I can understand your feelings of not getting your hopes up, only to be let down. Hang in there. Keep your sunny disposition Ben.
@olwd – Hahhhhhhhhhhh! Pun.
And thanks, Amy. You’re very sweet. I hope so too. I sent her a message, telling her that it was nice meeting her, that if she wants to meet up again soon that we can, and that she gets home safely. She replied back and only said, “Thanks! I’m home now and safe!” So… still up in the air, maybe?
I know that I hate approaching things in a half ass manner because when you care about something, you have to give it your full attention. But, too many times now when I did, it only made me fall harder on my face. So, I hope that at least this case where my hopes aren’t held so high is understandable.
I understand Ben, and I hope that is not the case with this girl. However, if it is, don’t give up too easily, be strong, be a man. Ok, another pun I suppose as it is mostly us women that get tired of the chase sooner than men do.
@olwd – We’ll see in the coming weeks. I think it’s more now that I’m trying to learn to deal with rejection because in the past, I didn’t do so well with it. Sometimes, I wish I can really just possess that “Fuck it” attitude and then move onto the next… but then I don’t really want to seem so coldhearted. *shrugs*
And also, “be a man” now has Mulan’s “Be A Man” stuck in my head. Today is just full of you putting catchy songs in my head.
catchy songs? I’ve never heard of that song you just mentioned and I think that was the only reference to one that you mentioned.
Yea, don’t be coldhearted because it will rub off on the relationships you do have eventually and that is not a good thing
@olwd – Well, there was the Navy one… and I highly recommend watching Mulan (if you haven’t already). You’ll see… er, hear, the song.
And of course. I do my best to be bubbly.
Well, not sure how high on my list of “things to do” I can put it, but I’ll keep it in mind. Mr. Bubbly! hehehe
@olwd – ^_^
@laytexduckie - Haha “Be a Man” reminded me of Russell Peters! Ben, don’t text to ask her out. Call her and ask her in person, I felt the sparks with liam the 2nd time we met!!! Its good, you hve an open mind with things. Man I hope this works out for you, if not off to the next one…
@mellywelly15 – I do that. Thanks, Melly!
“Be a man! Do the right thing!”
@laytexduckie - He does the cantonese accent so WELL!!!
@mellywelly15 – Hahah. I love doing accents.
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I knew I missed it. Well, glad you had a good time! And hope you have talked to her since.